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Am I Supposed to Stay Lonely?

Friday, 1 May, 2015 - 1:51 pm

NEW CLASS TONIGHT the Kabbalists Speak - after mincha (5:10pm)

Question of the Week:

I have an interest in studying Kabbalah. But I want to know, is it practical? I am not so interested in abstract mysticism, I want something that will help me in my life. I need something stimulating as I am getting a bit bored with single life. Will Kabbalah teach me the tools or is it just theoretical?

Answer:

What you are looking for is Chassidism, the practical application of Kabbalah. Let's look at an example of Chassidic thought that might be very relevant to your situation. At first it will seem like an out-there esoteric idea, until we add the Chassidic twist to bring it down to earth.

The master kabbalist Rabbi Isaac Luria taught:

Before the world was created, the divine light filled all of existence. When G-d decided to create the universe, He withdrew His light and left a void and an empty space to allow for the existence of the worlds. It is in that empty space that all worlds exist.

This is far more profound than it sounds. Thousands of pages have been written to explain and understand the meaning of this contraction of the divine light. But in its simplest level it means that to create an existence outside of Himself, G-d needed to first hold Himself back, to make room for another. As long as G-d's light filled all of existence, nothing else can be. By G-d hiding His light He made space for another - the world and all that is in it.

This concept can be directly applied to our lives. Many people complain that they are lonely and can't find love, and many people have trouble in their relationships. Sometimes the reason is because we have not actually made room for another person to enter our lives. We are so preoccupied with ourselves, our own lives, what we are looking for in a partner and what we think we need, that we don't really ever give someone else a chance.

When we present a long list of qualities that we are looking for in a partner, and then scrutinize each person to see how many they tick off, we are not actually meeting them for who they are. When we say we are looking for love, but then don't have time to meet anyone because Mondays and Wednesdays is gym, Tuesdays and Thursdays we work late, and then the weekend is so busy... it means we just don't have room for another person in our lives.

So here is a very practical lesson from the Kabbalah: if you want a true relationship with a real person, you need to create a space, find some openness, put your preconceptions aside and let someone else in. If you want a relationship to blossom you need to give the other a chance to be themselves, and you need to make room in your life for them to take up space.

Otherwise you will be like G-d was before creation - alone. And G-d knows that's not what you deserve.

Good Shabbos and Happy Lag Baomer,

Rabbi Moss 

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SHABBOS SERVICES

 

Friday, 1 May 2015 | 12 Iyar 5775 

Candlelighting 4:57pm 
Mincha 5:10pm followed by:

NEW WEEKLY SHIUR The Kabbalists Speak - thoughts on the Parsha from Arizal, Zohar, Shelah (every week after mincha)

Friday night Shabbos Service with kids program 6:00-6:45pm followed by Kiddush


Shabbos Day, 2 May 2015| 13 Iyar 5775   

Parshas Acharei/Kedoshim

The Chassidic Parshah Class 9:00am 

Shabbos Service 10:00 am-12:15pm followed by Kiddush sponsored by Lior, Anna, Maya and Yossi Segre in honour of their new baby daughter, Noa - Mazal Tov! and Larnce Gold in honour of the yortzeit of his grandmother, Nechama Bas Esther on 8 Iyar & for thanksgiving for good health.

Children's Program 11:00 am


 

Mincha 4:20pm

Pirkei Ovos Chapter 3

4:40pm Seudah Shlishis with A Gematria and a Story by Rev Amzalak

NEW SHABBOS AFTERNOON SHIUR 5:00PM

Shabbos ends and Maariv 5:52pm  
  

 

WEEKDAY SERVICES

Shacharis

Sunday 8:00am 

 

 

Monday-Friday 7:00am

 

 

Latest Shema this week 9:11am


 

MAZEL TOV Grant and Elana Smuts on the birth of a baby boy!

  

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO

Nathan Pelese for 12 Iyar/ 1 May

Carol Melman for 13 Iyar/2 May

Jonathan Isdale for 13 Iyar/ 2 May

Avishai Kessel for 18 Iyar/ 7 May 

    

 

 

LONG LIFE TO THE FOLLOWING WHO HAVE YORZEITS THIS WEEK

Frank Dreyer for his late mother, Eva Dreyer, Chava bat Avraham on 12 Iyar/1 May

Anne Sarzin for her late grandfather Rev Avraham Levy on 12 Iyar/ 1 May

Jack Klein for his late father Shimon Klein on 13 Iyar/ 2 May

Alex Bartos for his mother Rose Bartos, Rachel bas Avraham on Monday May 4 / 15 Iyar

Carol Melman for her late brother Brian Shapiro on 18 Iyar/ 7 May

Brad Melman for his late uncle Brian Shapiro on 18 Iyar/ 7 May

 

 

 

 

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