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Question of the Week: So my son just got engaged to a wonderful girl. We love and adore her, she is so good to him. But one issue, she has zero interest in Judaism. She thinks it's 'mostly rubbish,' but I know this is out of ignorance. I go to classes at shul and ask her if she wants to join, but she never does. She eats ham and cheese sandwiches! How can I show her, involve her, embrace her in without being the revolting jam-down-your throat type. I want to explain to her how easy keeping kosher is, how wonderful it is to keep a Jewish home, how it adds to your life and does not detract etc etc... What do you think I can say to turn her around?? Answer: The best thing you can say to her is: nothing. Don't mention Yiddishkeit. Don't tell her about the great Jewish book you have been reading. Don't explain to her why you braid the challah. Don't invite her to come to classes with you, and don't give her a rundown afterwards of what she missed. Just do your thing. Be an example of a Jewish woman whose life is enriched by Torah. Be good to her, nice to her, accepting of her. Embrace her as she is right now. This will speak louder than any lecture you could give. If one day she asks you a question about Judaism, give her an honest and meaningful answer. But wait for the interest to arise from within her. In time, she may come to it herself, in her own way. You have to let her go on her path. This may not come naturally to you. But it will be better in the end. Pushing her will only push her away, from Judaism and from you. Many people turn to religion when they witness an open miracle. Well, you can perform a miracle right now. When she sees her passionate and outspoken mother-in-law holding her piece and letting her be, she will have to concede, indeed there must be a G-d. Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss
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Friday, 3 July 2015 | 16 Tammuz 5775 Candle Lighting 4:40 pm Mincha 4:50 pm SHIUR: The Kabbalists Speak 5:15 pm Friday Night Shabbos Service with Children's Program 6:00-6:50 pm Followed by Kiddush
Shabbos, 4 July2015 | 17 Tammuz 5775 Parshas Balak Chassidism Class 9:00 am Shabbos Morning Service 10:00 am-12:15 pm Children's Program 11:00 am Followed by Kiddush Mincha 4:10pm Pirkei Avos Chapter 6 Seudah Shlishis with A Gematria and a Story by Rev Amzalak 4:35pm 4:55pm SHIUR: Why Can't I Pray on the Temple Mount? Shabbos ends and Maariv 5:39pm
WEEKDAY SERVICES Fast of the 17th Tammuz (postponed) | Sunday 5 July Fast starts 5:41am Fast Ends 5:26am Shacharis Sunday 8:00am followed by Shiur 9am-9:45am: "The Genius of the Talmud - the philosophy behind Jewish law" (kids creche 8am-9:45am) Monday-Friday 7:00am Latest Shema this week 9:30 am
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO Miriam Tzipora Lowinger for 17 Tammuz/ 4 July Ari Smaller for 19 Tammuz/ 6 July Rafael Deubler for 20 Tammuz/ 7 July
LONG LIFE to Ruth Jacobs and family on the passing of her father Jack Sukiennik.
WE WISH LONG LIFE TO THE FOLLOWING WHO HAVE YORTZEITS THIS WEEK Ruth Cromer for her later father Harold Frankfurter, Yehoshua Leib ben Shlomo Meir on 16 Tammuz/ 3 July Erna Frankfurter for her late husband Harold Frankfurter, Yehoshua Leib ben Shlomo Meir on 16 Tammuz/ 3 July Eric Melman for his late father George Melman, Gershon ben Yosef on 17 Tammuz/ 4 July Brad Melman for his late grandfather George Melman, Gershon ben Yosef on 17 Tammuz/4 July Ronan Lutman for his late grandmother Meda Sofer, Mesuda bat Farcha on 18 Tammuz/ 5 July Marlene Franks for her late mother Cecily Wolman, Tsovia bat Sabsa Welva on 22 Tammuz/ 9 July Judy Swaab for her late mother Adel Reves, Sarah bat Avraham on 22 Tammuz/9 July Adele Glick for her late mother Nachama Rieback on 22 Tammuz/ 9 July |