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Is Your Wife Insecure or Something?

Friday, 7 August, 2015 - 12:18 pm

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Question of the Week:

My family very much enjoyed being at your Shabbos table, thanks again for the invite. I meant to ask you a question that has bothered me for years. It's about prayer. Does G-d have such an ego problem that he demands his creations to pray to him 3 times a day, telling him how great he is?

Answer:

We loved having your wonderful family over. You should be very proud of them all.

But one thing disturbed me. Your children behaved really well, but I am a little concerned about your wife.

Every time your wife gave your son anything, like a piece of chicken, a drink, or a toy to play with, she insisted that he say thank you to her.

Your son acquiesced, and each time she told him to, he said thank you. This went on throughout the meal, at least a dozen times.

This is a worry. Is your wife so insecure that she needs her son to constantly acknowledge her? Is it normal to almost force someone to thank you, for even basic needs like food and drink, just to build up your own ego?

I think you get my point...

Your wife was being an exemplary mother, teaching her children gratitude and humility. When you are given something, big or small, you must acknowledge the giver. Her request to be thanked was not for herself, it was for her children. She got nothing out of her son's thanks, other than the pride in seeing her child developing his character. But your son was learning a precious lesson.

G-d trains us to thank Him, like a devoted parent who wants the best for His children. He doesn't need our thanks as much as we need to thank Him. Because everything we have, including life itself, is a gift. The minute we forget that, the minute we take even the simplest pleasures for granted, we stop living a life of wonder.

Parents who do not impart the trait of appreciation to their children are not only making life difficult for themselves, they are robbing their children of a basic tool for life. Only when I see everything as a gift, can I be happy with what I have rather than miserable about what I don't have.

So we should thank G-d for everything, even for asking us to thank Him. Gratitude is a gift too.

Good Shabbos,

Rabbi Moss

Sources: 
Siddur, Modim derabbonon
See Talmud Sotah 40a "We thank You G-d for the fact that we thank You." 

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Friday, 7 August 2015 | 22 Av 5775

Candle Lighting....................................... 5:01 pm

Mincha..................................................... 5:10 pm

SHIUR: The Kabbalists Speak............... 5:20 pm

Friday Night Shabbos Service and Shocking Sermon - Killing Lions In Judaism

 with Children's Program............ 6:00-6:50 pm

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Shabbos, 8 August 2015 | 23 Av 5775

Parshas Eikev | Shabbos Mevorchim

Chassidus Class..........................9:00 am

Shabbos Morning Service ..............10:00 am-12:15 pm

Children's Program......................11:00 am

Followed Kiddush & Community Lunch sponsored by Pia Ink in honour of the yohrtzeit of her grandmother, Sylvia bas Shura, on 13 Av; the yohrtzeit of her brother, Zachariah ben Shoshana Rivka on 25 Av; and to add a touch of light to these not-so-light occasions, we also celebrate her birthday, which is on 3 Elul.

 

Mincha..................................................... 4:30 pm

Pirkei Avos Chap. 4 followed by Seudah Shlishis

Shiur: How Much Tzedakah Should I Give? ...... 5:10 pm

Shabbos ends and Maariv.................... 5:59 pm

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Comments on: Is Your Wife Insecure or Something?
4/2/2016

Caroline Webster wrote...

I don't understand why you criticise the 'wife' in the beginning of this confusing article as you only go on to congratulate God for doing what you have questioned the wife for doing in the first place. Clearly I've missed the point you are trying to make with this article.
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